Oh the excitement, I can hardly contain myself, this is it, today is the day!!
But wait, hang on
Today’s the day and tomorrow will be the day, and the day after that and the day after that. In fact, every day is THE day – because every day brings a new start, a fresh perspective, unique experiences, opportunities and challenges, things we have never experienced before. Exciting isn’t it?
OR is it?
Is every day like the last? Do we have groundhog day most days, where we do the same things as we always did, we don’t change, we don’t learn, we don’t encourage and we don’t appreciate what and who is there in front of us?
Do we show who we really are, what we have to offer – who is the Real You?
The Dalai Lama, when asked what surprised him most about humanity, answered “Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.”
As very small children – up to about 18 months old, we have no sense of self, we look in a mirror and see a reflection but we don’t know that to be ourselves.
As we grow, we become more aware of who we are, what our peers think and do and how we see ourselves in the world.
As teenagers, we try the latest fashions, new experiences, develop relationships and often struggle with finding our place in this world. For some, as time goes on, that becomes easier, for others it becomes a life struggle to find our own identity, self-belief and self – worth.
Nature v Nurture
A lot of this will depend upon how we are brought up, what influences are brought to bear, what experiences we have, whether our own, our family or those of our peers.
We will all know that person who seems to have the “perfect life”, who makes no effort and succeeds in everything, whether sport or academics or relationships. The truth is that no-one in the world has a “perfect life” as such a thing does not exist; everyone has challenges or failures that they have to recover from or worries and doubts and maybe secrets they do not want people to know.
This is the essence of who we are, the nature v nurture question, how we respond in life is down to a number of interweaving elements. There is no one true answer and no one true self, we all have to find our own best version of ourselves and show that to the world.
However, within all of us, whether hidden or otherwise are great talents, unique elements that the world deserves to see. We all have the ability to offer so much and sometimes we just a need a little nudge, a bit of encouragement.
So where next?
So where does that leave us then, it leaves us in the place we have always been, as unique individuals, amazing people with special qualities that are waiting to be seen and heard.
There is a lot of talk these days about living “authentically” but really this is nothing new, this is as it has always been. If you can find what is right for you, what gives you the freedom of expression, opportunity and creativity then you will know.
This is not an easy thing to do nor one that is to be taken lightly but by reaching to the outer edge of what we can achieve, it will not only be exciting and frightening in equal measure but it will also open up avenues and opportunities you never thought existed. It will show you ways that you can be useful and caring, how your talents are exceptional and how we all can make a change in the world, one day at a time.
Can we change?
Can we change habits, can we change from where we are today or are our lives set out in front of us? Can we still aspire to different things and achieve them? Absolutely, of course we can and we should! Experiences are what make a life.
Having dreams and goals (both near and far reaching) are what brings us alive, what makes our pulse race, what makes the day, week, month, year ahead seem exciting.
As individuals we are all amazing, we all have so much to offer and to be grateful for.
But The Real You – the one who can come alive, this is the one the world is waiting to see.
So here’s to audacity, courage and humility – Welcome to InJustOneDay.
“Don’t ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive, and then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”
– Howard Thurman